Self-Love and Self-care have been trending topics even pre-pandemic. But post-pandemic, strategies for some enduring TLC for yourself is even more critical!
If you aren’t feeling the love read on for our top 10 tips to practice self-care and being kind to yourself. Because YOU ARE AMAZING! (SEE IT. READ IT. BELIEVE IT.)
- Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s so easy to play the comparison game! Falling right into the trap is so easy. Whether comparing the size of our home, our paycheck, our body, our weight, or even the number of likes or followers we have, we do it all the time. The goal of life isn’t to be better than anyone else. It’s to be the best version of ourselves. Don’t compare yourself to others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time. Shine bright as YOURSELF!
- Love your body. Research shows up to 84% of American women experience body dissatisfaction in their lifetimes. It’s no easy task, but learn to love your body, learn to appreciate your abilities and capabilities. The first step is to commit to it, create a positive narrative about your body. You’ve got ONE body. That body has helped you get through life, from learning new skills and playing sports to creating babies and everything in between. YOUR BODY has helped you do amazing, fun, hard, and great things.
- Be patient. We often want to get to the destination, without thinking about the journey. Part of being kind to yourself is appreciating the journey, appreciating that small steps forward can lead to great things. Creating short term mini-goals along a journey can help with patience and alleviate the frustration that the destination isn’t yet in sight.
- Positive affirmations. The positive statements you repeat to yourself can help you challenge and overcome self-sabotage. We can successfully re-program our brain and over time begin to behave and think differently and appreciate ourselves. Positive affirmations have been used to successfully treat people with low self-esteem. Mindtools.com shares that they have shown to stimulate the areas in our brain that make us more likely to affect positive change in regard to our health.
- Move your body and do what you LOVE. We all know movement is critical for our physical and cardiovascular health. While we know that movement is important for our mental health, we often forget about that fact. Movement is true nourishment for the body AND the brain. Moving our bodies have been scientifically proven to improve mood, depression, and ADHD and decrease anxiety symptoms. A little movement goes a long way.
- Push that inner critic aside. “I’m Ugly” “I feel fat” I’m not smart enough” “it’s my fault.” Does this conversation sound familiar? When our inner critic starts talking to us, we feel defeated, down, and depressed. While it’s extremely difficult to shut out the inner critic, we can learn to push the inner critic aside. To do so, we must recognize the source of the critic, and re-frame the conversation. We often can’t control the first thought, but we can control the response. We can treat ourselves kindly, and reframe the conversation. We can accept ourselves and say we ARE GOOD ENOUGH!!! Click here for three ways to deal with your inner critic from Annie Moussu’s website.
- Celebrate the wins. Success is a series of small wins. We often don’t give ourselves credit for daily achievements. Giving yourself a pat on the back for a successful meeting or for getting to your workout at the end of a tiring day can drive up the happiness meter. This creates a positive feedback loop that encourages winning habits, self-love, and appreciation.
- Practice gratitude. We always have a choice when it comes to our perspectives. We can view things negatively and drown in our sorrows losing precious moments of our lives or we can practice gratitude. When we take the time to stop and smell the roses, to be grateful for things we are thankful for we experience positive emotions, gratitude can bring better health, less stress, more sleep, and even can bring about kindness. According to www.happify.com, psychologist Robert Emmons, author of Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make you Happier, shows that simply keeping a gratitude journal can significantly increase well-being and life satisfaction. So how about it, let’s get writing!
- Stop caring what other people think. “Care what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner” – Lao Tzu. This one’s a real doozy. We formulate how we act, the way we dress, the way we speak and think and behave according to social norms. So others think we are “normal” or “cool” or “exciting.” So much so, that our self-worth begins to equate with what others think of us. These worries are debilitating! If we began focusing on our own perspectives vs. other’s judgment, we would be much happier. Other people’s opinions about us are truly none of our business. They don’t have much to do with us but more to do with them, their POV, their experiences, and their judgment. As long as we remember that, we can move on to be our best selves with some self-love to boot
- Have FUN by yourself or with the ones you love. It’s so important to enjoy life. YOLO!!! Our day-to-day lives are filled with stressors big and small. When stressed, physical, emotional, and mental health can suffer. A critical part of self-care is to HAVE FUN! It’s sometimes hard to remember to have a little fun. But, fun, particularly types of activities that make you laugh can release tension, reduce stress, and boost your immune system. Fun activities are easier to commit to because you look forward to them. Gamifying things in your everyday life can help make them more fun! Studies have found that if you “gamify” activities, like exercise, by structuring them so that you earn “rewards” for different achievements, they become much more fun. Paid Workout has used this theory to help increase the likelihood that people will participate in their favorite physical activity more consistently.
Tried any of these? Let us know how it felt. We can’t wait to hear from you!
Want to know more about any of the aforementioned topics or about anything at all let us know!